3 Quick Steps Forward To Change Your Life
I am not a minimalist. But for several years I’ve been looking for answers to the question of what do you do if you want to change your life. I’ve been stuck without a plan given my responsibilities and all the stuff I’ve accumulated over the years. By boomer time, there is generally a mortgage. If not a mortgage, there are other things you love that you see as a reflection of yourself and they need somewhere to be. Then there are the sentimental items you think you love that document your life’s adventures. And there are also promises, whether defined by credit you owe or personal responsibility that prevent you from proceeding through your life free and easy.
Still I’ve been wanting to move on and I decided to work through the emotional block that was preventing this from happening. Without going into all of what that block encompasses, let me say I was able to come to terms with what might be possible in a new life but only after I decided to downsize. Then the fog evaporated and a plan began to evolve.
To meet my goal of more freedom, I needed to reduce my expenses. Here is what I did:
Set a Date to Get Started
Seems obvious but if you don’t start it will never happen. In my case I hired a realtor and quickly learned it might be possible to rent my home for an amount that made renting worthwhile. So my suggestion is do what is necessary to get started. Don’t try to do something that is not your strength or you may wind up like the hairdresser whose hair is always a mess or the accountant who never does his own taxes. Put the start aspect of your move in someone else’s hands while you begin working on step two of your plan.
Figure out your must haves
Continuing with my example of downsizing, no matter where I have lived, whether a 3 bedroom poorly laid out coop in Harlem, a 4BR pied-de-terre with 12 foot ceilings in north Newark, New Jersey or my beach cottage along the Jersey Shore, I have always surrounded myself with art, plants, books, and good light. But in coming to the decision to downsize, I also realized I do not need everything in my immediate environment. It seems obvious but it is a painful process to detach from my favorite things and to feel good about it.
Nothing happens without action. And act you must even if you fail. Sometimes the best experiences comes from failures. Either way, there is no losing if you act because no matter the outcome, the process of acting becomes a great teaching moment.
I don’t know what you need to do but these 3 quick steps have gotten me to a point where I feel comfortable enough to move into uncharted waters. What are your best suggestions for moving forward to change your life?